What is a Frame?
Frames are mental structures that shape how we see the world (a.k.a: point of view or perspective). In business, frames pack your power, authority, strength, information, and status.
- Everyone uses frames.
- Social interactions bring different frames together.
- Frames do not coexist.
- The stronger frames absorb weaker frames.
- The winning frame governs social interaction.
- Frames involve social desire.
Choosing a Frame
- When entering a social situation, ask: "What kind of frame am I against?".
- Be ready to change the frame as the social interaction evolves.
- When you are in the middle of an interaction:
- If you're reacting to the other person, that person owns the frame.
- If the other person reacts to what you do and says, you own the frame.
Types of Frames
- Power Frame. Derived from the fact others give this person honor and respect.
- How to detect it:
- Arrogance, lack of interest, rudeness, imperial.
- Oblivious to what others think.
- Poor judges of the reaction of others.
- Willing to take unmeasurable risks.
- Telling others what to do.
- How to combat it:
- Avoiding reacting to the other's frame.
- Do nothing to strengthen the other's frame.
- How to set it up:
- Perpetrate a slight denial or,
- Act out some type of defiance.
- Play the give-and-take power frame game if needed.
- Do not abuse when you have control.
- Examples:
- Place a folder on the conference table labeled "Confidential"
- When the target reaches for the file, you grab it and say: "Uh-uh, not yet. You have to wait for it."
- Bring some visuals.
- When the target sneaks a peek and then, and then when you see him curiously looking.
- Turn it over, take it away, and say: "Not until I say you are ready."
- Respond to a comment with a small but forceful act of defiance.
- Person: "Thanks for coming, I only have 15 mins..."
- You: "That's okay, I only have 12, but you are serious too."
- Be defiant and funny at the same time.
- Analyst Frame.
- Disrupted by Intrigue Frame.
- Intrigue Frame.
- How to detect it's needed:
- When somebody asks for details.
- When communication is not flowing back and forth (nonreactive state).
- The person shows disinterest or shows mind wandering.
- The person thinks they can predict your idea before you explain it.
- When extreme and nearly total loss of alertness.
- Lost of mutual connection.
- How to set it up:
- Respond with a "Summary of Data" you prepared for this specific purpose.
- Redirect the attention back to your pitch.
- Tell an Intrigue Story, a brief but relevant story that involves you:
- It's a personal story that you have prepared in advance.
- You are in the story's center to redirect the attention back to you.
- There has to be some suspense, risk, danger, and uncertainty.
- There should be time pressure.
- Clock ticking
- There are ominous consequences if action is taken slowly.
- You are trying to do something but are being blocked by some force.
- There should be serious consequences, failure won't be pretty.
- Disrupts the Analyst Frame.
- Examples:
- In financial deals: "The revenue is X, the expense is Y, this and other factors you can verify later but right now what we have to focus is on this: are we a good fit? Should we be doing business together?"
- When the audience's attention begins to shift to analytical questions:
- Tell your Intrigue Story.
- Time Frame. This often happens when attention is beyond the human span.
- How to detect it:
- You see attention being to wane.
- People become fatigued.
- You have been pitched for a few minutes.
- How to combat it:
- When attention is bottom out and expires, that's it.
- Hot to set it up:
- Stay in control of the time and wrapping up.
- Do not try to speed up to go through the rest of the pitch.
- Examples:
- During a meeting:
- "Hey, it looks like time us up. I've got to wrap this up and get to my next meeting."
- If they are interested, they will agree to a follow-up.
- Rush to meet with you:
- Person: "Hi, I only have about 10 minutes to meet with you..."
- You: "No, I don't work like that, there isn't sense in rescheduling unless we like each other and trust each other. I need to know, if are you good to work with?, can you keep appointments? and stick to a schedule."
- Prize Frame. Tells people "You are trying to win my attention, I am the prize, not you. I can find some others like you but there is only one me."
- How to detect it:
- Missing appointments, the person arriving late, delaying to start.
- How to combat it:
- Ask the others to get organized.
- "So you guys are asking me to delay the start? Okay, I can give you 15 mins to get organized, but if we can't start by, let us just call it a day."
- If the person doesn't show up:
- Do not deliver your presentation or any other material.
- Do not apologize.
- Make the person qualify himself to you.
- "Can you tell me about yourself? I am picky about who I'm working with."
- Make the person perform a legitimate task to earn a deal.
- Take the time to step back and withdraw.
- Embrace the idea that money is a commodity.
- How to set it up:
- Place the frame by telling them at the beginning of the meeting.
- "I'm glad I could find the time to meet you today. I do have a meeting right after this. Let's get started."
- Moral Authority Frame. Tells people: "We are right, you are wrong."
- How to detect it:
- The others do not have the moral or rightness to act as they do.
- How to set it up:
- Be prepared with an agenda to make things, with an actionable step-by-step involving acknowledgment by you of each of the actions that you ask them to do.
- Tell them why you are right and they are wrong.
- "You have done/not done X, Y, and this is/not is what agree/it isn't right, and you know that...(immediately lay out your agenda)."
- Tell them your agenda:
- "This is what will happen, 1)... 2)... 3)..."
- Tell them as they speak:
- "Your lips are moving, but I am not listening to a single word, your words have no meaning. Stop talking start...."
- Tell them what you are going to do:
- "You know what, I've had enough of this. Get out of here now, I'm going to call the cops..."
- Tell them what will happen to them.
- "Let me paint a picture for you: (describe personal consequences to them, their assets, or relatives). Is that how you want to end today?. The other option is to start..."
- Tell them how you will check progress,
- "(call their name), every 15 minutes you are going to give me a deliverable that means - just so you understand me perfectly- something happens that benefits me. Cancel your schedule, do not leave this room, pick up the phone and start..."
- Commit to your frame and keep it strong (plowing).
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